Theological Training of the Laity (TTL), formed in 2002, was an initiative of a small group of lay Catholic women in Petaling Jaya who felt the need for an understanding of the Divine that not only embraces the rich traditions of the established Church, but is also inclusive of the main contemporary trends worldwide. TTL organizes courses, workshops and seminars that cover a range of topics from foundational theology to psycho spirituality and personal growth and wellness.
Sunday, September 4, 2011
Earnest Tan's 2011 Workshops - Report
TTL’s association with Earnest Tan since the 2007 workshop on The Inward Journey and the 2009 workshops on Growth and Wellness as well as Power & Empowerment led to Compassion Fatigue and another session of The Journey Inward in 2011. Taking stock of the changing times, TTL aims to encourage and consolidate attitudinal changes in a largely, though not exclusively, Catholic audience by combining imagination with innovation. TTL members who had attended the East Asian Pastoral Institute (EAPI) in Manila were exposed to Earnest’s modules on psycho – spiritual trainings, and were unanimous that Earnest’s uniquely personal presentations and facilitation style would fill a void in the theological training of the laity with a heart-sense approach, in step with the spirit of the times. Hence the academic/cognitive type of TTL workshops on theological themes have been interspersed with the psycho-spiritual components that Earnest brings to balance the affective side of the participants’ needs
Compassion Fatigue Workshop : A One-day Workshop by Earnest Tan held at La Salle Hall, PJ, 2nd August, 2011
The program:
TTL targeted this workshop mostly for caregivers but not exclusively to them. Some interested persons were grateful to attend and numbers exceeded the 25 originally intended to stand at 35! The idea of running this workshop was not merely to have caregivers attend but in the hope that a support group could materialise should the need be expressed by workshop participants. As indeed it was and the workshop was unreservedly a resounding YES!
Participant - comments:
"The whole content. presentation, process space has given me time for self reflection for which I am grateful.......thank you for organizing this at such an affordable rate"
"A good workshop - and a good one to organize again.
“Very practical, relevant and life-giving”
Earnest Tan is "a good speaker who understands and connects with me"
"This course has taught me how to take control of myself"
“I would really like it if we have a support group to connect wit
On ideas/concepts to identify stress factors and dealing with them:
Earnest took the participants through a naming process, describing what “compassion fatigue” means and its symptoms, as well as helping participants identify its common sources. He dealt with coping skills and self care, how vision distortions should be identified and removed in the process of self care in the journey to self fulfilment and the importance of setting boundaries in order to avoid the pitfalls of “secondary victimisation” that is often at the core of compassion fatigue
Participant - comments
Being enabled to " identify/name the factors that are causing my compassion fatigue."
Learning the need for "tough love, assertiveness, self care"
"Understanding the vision distortions and recognizing the freedom to be self-fulfilled"
Knowing about "setting boundaries"
“It is important to recognize our stress factors and to be empowered to handle our stress"
"I can change my internal shortcomings"
“The importance intimacy…of not wearing masks”
On understanding better those in your care:
Earnest then went on to show how meaningful connections are made with self, others and a higher power beyond. He explained what intimacy means and how fears obstruct growth and puts up our defences which further weakens us and prevents us from the ministry of caring for the other person by giving of ourselves in love and compassion.
Participant - comments
"Acting in love and not out of duty"
Knowing "the difference between sympathy and empathy"
"Being open-minded and always listening to the need of the person"
“Learning how not to impose personal values on others”
“Very informative and helpful in seeing the difference between me and my role.”
‘An eye-opener – to realise I am not alone in this struggle’
The Journey Inward Workshop : A Three-days Workshop by Earnest Tan held at the Bayu Beach Resort, Port Dickson, 5th-7th August, 2011
This workshop is a tribute to Earnest’s presentation skills and expertise. He navigated the 24 participants through our life journeys so skilfully - taking us from birth to the present moment in the span of 3 days - leaving me satisfied that I had got so much more than I had hoped for! It was filled with his personal stories and our own sharings in small and large groups that it made us feel like a shared community of people learning and growing together.
Day 1 - Earnest gave a brief introduction about the foundation of our psychological well-being, about a healthy ego with a strong spiritual sense that strives to pursue paths that truly define and fulfil our personhood by bringing our inner and outer life into congruence. He explained the 9 requisites for personal change and growth and ended the evening with an introduction to Day 2’s First step in the Stages of Growth Journey. This was the Hand Language tool where we were to choose one of our palms and define the various aspects of our personhood and family history on the fingers and wrist by means of a drawing, symbol or words.
Day 2 - After a simple opening ritual – which was a song “ Shine” from Earnest’s new CD release, we reflected on our Hand Language presentations and shared with the group what we had drawn and why. Next we moved into the 8 broad Stages of Life based on Erik Erikson’s concepts. After every stage was explained and illustrated with a personal narrative from Earnest and the needs and key persons relevant to each stage explained, there was a period of reflection with a partner/s to share our own stories and remembrances and a chance to share our feelings if we were so inclined. This process of reflection was quite intense but Earnest helped us to handle it without much strain. Concluding the evening we were told that to “go forward, we must go backward”, that reclaiming our inner child and our histories and reconciling with our past gives us healing and the ability to live harmoniously in the present. The basic lesson was that both growth and non-growth are choices/decisions we make. Earnest took us through the various stages of these choices and the consequences of these.
Day 3 –Earnest had a Christian prayer and our only Muslim participant was invited to say an Arabic prayer. After this brief opening, there was a list of suggested healing tips that came out of the discussion from the previous evening’s group work. These were related to forgiveness issues and the healing of memory and letting go. This was the launching pad for the next component – Journeying into my paralysis in life. This called for much deeper inner reflection than the previous day. We were asked to find a quiet place and engage in a dialogue with anybody or anything or any part of us that was paralysed for about an hour. Following this exercise, we got into potentially long-term support groups within which to make our sharings of what we had written. In this way we were to confront our paralysis and make growth/non-growth choices about them.
The post-lunch session was the highlight of the workshop as it synthesised all the learnings. The tools were our own reflections on our life experiences, the discernments that came along and the process of catharsis that led to healings to set us on the road to personal change. Earnest made a powerful comparison of personal change to the mystery of the paschal event and the resurrection. The idea of rebirth as a new person lies in the process of consciousness examined, requiring much self-discipline and continual effort, tools constantly learned, unlearned and relearned to face new challenges. Finally Earnest took us through the 4 phases of Values Development-Consciousness Tracking. The closing part of the Workshop was indeed very intense, reinforcing for me the Socratic saying that an unexamined life is indeed not worth living!
Evaluation forms were given and then the closing song Shine. Hugs and some tears ended the day and another series of hellos-goodbyes.
Participant- Comments
What appealed most?
The Hand Language Tool –
“made me reflect about important events in my life: self-discovery.”
“I had the opportunity to look at my history and assess the sources of joy, pain, strength …..and listen to others to increase my perspectives on life.”
The Values Development Consciousness Track –
“makes me aware that I can achieve harmony and peace as part of the wider universe– these are conscious choices I make for myself.”
The Group Sharing --
“The individual is given space to share and grow personally.”
“Sharing sessions help to enlighten each other.”
Identifying my Paralysis –
“Will now be using it in my daily living, a never - ending process.”
Stages of Life..
“very applicable.”
What helped most with your self- understanding?
“Identifying my paralysis, so I can name it and get to the root of the problem.”
“The 4 phases of values development and how it leads one to the other.”
“Hand language – a fun way … less intense way of finding oneself.”
“The requisites for personal growth and change”
“Sharing of self with others and hearing their stories”
The Dialogue tool is very powerful – it helped me to clarify issues more than journal-writing did. I chose to dialogue with my subconscious”
What was particularly challenging?
“Stages of Life – we could be at any stage depending on self-feelings.”
“Paralysis and process of healing”
“I am still very uncomfortable with the concept of sharing openly and deeply”
“The dialogue with God (or people) because I need to maybe reflect more into my inner self.”
“Consciousness-tracking - gauging where I am right now.”
“Forgiveness – it is so hard because the trauma is still inside of my soul.”
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Another 2 workshop-seminars with Earnest

Earnest brings his vast experience of training in the areas of Human Intimacy & Sexuality, The Process of Value Development, Effective Coping & Communication Skills, Effective Parenting, Relationship Enhancement and Empowerment. He has shared his expertise around the Philippines and in other countries such as Australia, Brunei, Korea, Papua New Guinea, Thailand and Malaysia.
In recent years, he has been coming to Malaysia to conduct various seminars related to personal growth and wellness, enhancing relationships, understanding emotions and self awareness empowering self and others.
What some past participants said about previous Growth and Wellness seminars facilitated by Earnest:
- Impressed by his gentle style, authenticity, openness, transparency. His personal stories gave credibility to what he communicated, with such spirit, humanity and conviction.
- The experience was life transforming!
- It has given me a road map to work on my own issues. Earnest's honest sharing of his personal stories was so inspiring and gave me much hope. Didn’t realise how my childhood impacted me so much. With the tools given, I can free myself from that which chokes me from growing.
- Understanding my family roots led to the discovery of my inner self. This enabled me to name the paralysis that prevents me from growing.
- The workshop opened my eyes to many deep issues within me and provided tools to help me. Helped me to understand myself better in a non-threatening and hopeful manner.
- It came at the right time in my life, allowing me to understand myself, my emotions and responses better. I came away believing that psychological development and enhancement is key to spiritual growth.
- The whole workshop... helped me understand that I was sabotaging my own life because of what I held onto.
- Learnt the tools for identifying and addressing my emotions, processing self and inner wellness... learning to be more reflective.
About the Programme
The programme is a journey inward to understand one's personal dynamics and to facilitate the movement towards integration and wholeness. Workshop topics include:
• requisites for personal growth and change
• getting in touch with my personhood
• my family: the roots and wings of my personhood
• my paralysis in life
• my value system
• values discernment
The programme will end with helping you chart your personal consciousness track where you will have clarity as to where you are at present in your growth process, where you can move towards and how to move from here to there.
Who should attend
Persons interested in personal growth, self-improvement, ways of freeing the self.
Where
Bayu Beach Resort Pork Dickson
7km Jalan Pantai, Port Dickson
(Tel: 06-6473703)
When
Friday, August 5 - arrive at 9.30am for registration & refreshments
to Sunday, August 7 - depart at 4.00pm
How much
RM300.00 for board and lodging (on a twin sharing basis). Those who can afford to pay more are encouraged to contribute to a collection at the end of the workshop to help defray other costs.
LIMITED PLACES AVAILABLE ON A FIRST-COME-FIRST-SERVED BASIS.
II. COMPASSION FATIGUE (A Workshop for Caregivers)

The very nature of a caregiver's involvement can be demanding. As such, they are the primary candidates for compassion fatigue. This is a result of caring over time, sometimes without support or respite, and can lead to severe exhaustion and even spiritual vacuum.
This program will help you assess and become aware of compassion fatigue. This is in order for us to anticipate it before its effects hit us. It also explores the factors that often lead to compassion fatigue, whether it is coming from personal or organizational factors. It will teach a way to name the stresses that are experienced. It will also discuss some of the common issues related to caring.
When Tuesday, 2 August, 2011.
8.30 am: Registration and light refreshments
9.00 am – 4.00 pm: Workshop
4.00 pm: Afternoon tea and departure
Where
La Salle Hall
Jalan 5/15B, Off Jalan Chantek, Petaling Jaya
How much
Contribution of RM60.00 towards the cost of venue, meals & light refreshments. Those who can afford to pay more are encouraged to contribute to a collection at the end of the day to help defray other costs.

Who should attend
Persons engaged in the care of others, family members with a sick and/or elderly person at home, coordinators of the Sick and Elderly in the BECs and other interested persons.
LIMITED PLACES ONLY - PLEASE REGISTER EARLY!
How to pay
Payment is by cash or cheque made payable to Chow Mei Mei, which can be banked into CIMB Bank A/C No: 12650001973525. Kindly send registration form and payment details to Bernie at chowbernie@yahoo.com.
Who to ask
Bernie (012-2637912)
Angeline (03-7955 0845)
Closing Date: 25 July 2011
Power of Silence
About the Programme
The process includes input as well as exercises to help you get in touch with yourself at a deeper level and to perceive the dynamics of your psyche and thus to experience the power of the Spirit in the inner sacred space.
The quality that everyone of us needs most urgently is silence. We simply must learn how to be silent and how to remain in silence. Once you enter that silence, once you open your heart to that unpredictable and incomparable experience, you will find that each of us can be the person we are called to be if we allow that silence to develop in our hearts. Make no mistake about it, the silence that each of us is summoned to enter is the eternal silence of God. This is the silence each of us can find in our own hearts. Discovering it will lead you to understand that silence is itself the medium of perfect communication. It is in silence that we communicate at depth and with the truth of wholeness. – John Main (Benedictine monk)
About the Facilitator
Fr Seb

What some past participants have to say:
• A balance of meditation & teaching (with discussion).• Well spaced out programme – not taxing.
• Feel refreshed, peaceful, rejuvenated…
• This retreat has given me new insights into spirituality.
• It has been a God-experience for me.
• A wonderful facilitator…. very authentic & sincere.
• He is a man of grace….
When
Tuesday, 26 July 2011
8.30 am: Registration & light refreshments
9.00 am – 3.30 pm: Workshop
3.30 pm: Afternoon tea & departure
Where
Luther House (next to Tun Hussein Eye Hospital)
6 Jalan Utara, Petaling Jaya
How much
A contribution of RM60.00 is requested to cover the cost of venue, meals & light refreshments. Those who can afford to pay more are encouraged to contribute to a collection at the end of the day to help defray other costs.
How to pay
Payment is by cash or cheque made payable to Chow Mei Mei, which can be banked into CIMB Bank A/C No: 12650001973525. Kindly send registration form and payment details to chowbernie@yahoo.com.
Who should attend
This meditation workshop is an introduction for Christians who wish to start on a spiritual journey but do not know how. For others already familiar with meditation, this workshop will also be a refreshing experience.
What to bring

Bring your Bible and a cushion if you wish to sit on the floor during the meditation.
Who to ask
Bernie (012-2637912)
Angeline (03-7955 0845)
Closing Date: 12 July 2011
LIMITED TO 25 PLACES ONLY - PLEASE REGISTER EARLY!
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Another 2 interesting workshop-seminars coming up
I. Growth and Wellness
About the Programme
The program provides an overview of the holistic approach to wellness. Participants will learn about the seven dimensions of wellness, the nature of stress and the ways by which stresses could be managed. An initial assessment on burn out will be conducted. This will be followed with practical skills in conducting a skills inventory, managing emotions, and identifying the attitudinal sources of stress and burnout.
What some past participants have to say
- There is a sense of freedom, of being liberated from fears that shackled me in the past and blocked intimacy with friends and family.
- The workshop opened my eyes to many deep issues within me and provided tools to help me. Helped me to understand myself better in a non-threatening and hopeful manner.
- It has given me a road map to work on my own issues. Earnest's honest sharing of his own stories was so inspiring and gave me much hope. Didn’t realise how my childhood impacted me so much. With the tools given, I can free myself from that which chokes me from growing.
- It came at the right time in my life, allowing me to understand myself, my emotions and responses better. I came away believing that psychological development and enhancement is key to spiritual growth.
- Understanding my family roots led to the discovery of my inner self. This enabled me to name the paralysis that prevents me from growing.
- That I am an imperfect human being and that I should not beat myself up when I make mistakes in life. It is important to forgive myself in order to move on!
Who Should Attend
Persons who are interested in understanding and growing the Self to be who they really are.
When
5 – 7 November, 2010
Friday to Sunday (3 full days)
10.00am – 4.00pm daily
(light refreshments begins at 9.30am)
Where
La Salle University Hall
Jalan 5/15B, Off Jalan Chantek
46000 Petaling Jaya
How much
Contribution of RM180.00 towards the cost of venue, meals & light refreshments. Those who can afford to pay more are encouraged to contribute to a collection on the last day to help defray other costs.
Closing Date: 28 October 2010
LIMITED PLACES ONLY - PLEASE REGISTER EARLY!
II. The Psychology of Power and Empowerment
About the Programme
This programme will help participants reflect on their source of power and ways by which they can empower themselves and others.
Topics include:
- Overview of power and sources of power
- Empowering others
- The power of self-worth: the nibble theory and kernel of power
- The power of vision and mission: making a personal mission statement
- The power of leading with honour: utilising principle-centered power of leadership.
What some past participants have to say:
- Earnest is 'down to earth’. I am empowered by his sessions as I have learned new tools and skills for self-development and relationship with others.
- I was guided to discover my true self and understanding how my roots had influenced me was empowering. I feel enlightened and optimistic about the future!
- Gained insights on the roots of my behavioural patterns and have now learn the tools to change. Very life-giving indeed!
- The workshop has taught me to be myself and to accept and love myself as who I really am. An important lesson is to "let go" and to give space and respect the individuality of others in order to empower self and others.
- It has awakened in me the knowledge of self – what makes me tick; it taught me how to better relate better in relationships and to acknowledge and respect differences.
- The workshop helped me to develop my thinking and to understand the roots of my frustrations. I was led to affirmation & reconciliation of self – I discovered a suppressed playful and creative child within me wishing to surface!
Who should attend
Persons who wish to reflect on their source of power and incorporate the values and principles of integrity and honour in the manner in which they exercise their power in the family, work environment, community and society at large.
When
3 – 4 November, 2010
Wednesday to Thursday (2 full days)
10.00am – 4.00pm daily
(Light refreshments begins at 9.30am)
Where
La Salle University Hall
Jalan 5/15B, Off Jalan Chantek
46000 Petaling Jaya
How much
Contribution of RM120.00 towards the cost of venue, meals & light refreshments. Those who can afford to pay more are encouraged to contribute to a collection on the last day to help defray other costs.
Closing Date: 28 October 2010
About The Programme Leader
Earnest L. Tan (http://earnestltan-spiritus.tripod.com/), from the Philippines, designs and conducts workshop-seminars geared towards personal growth and wellness. He is a regular lecturer and resource person for the East Asian Pastoral Institute, Asian Social Institute, the Medical Education Unit of the University of the Philippines and Philippine General Hospital, and Miriam Graduate School.
Earnest brings his vast experience of training in the areas of Human Intimacy & Sexuality, The Process of Value Development, Effective Coping & Communication Skills, Effective Parenting, Relationship Enhancement and Empowerment. He has shared his expertise around the Philippines and in other countries such as Australia, Brunei, Korea, Papua New Guinea, Thailand and Malaysia.
How to pay
Payment is by cash or cheque made payable to Chow Mei Mei, which can be banked into CIMB Bank A/C No: 12650001973525. Kindly send registration form and payment details to chowbernie@yahoo.com.
Who to ask
Bernie (012-2637912)
Angeline (03-7955 0845)
Friday, June 25, 2010
Lay Holiness and Ministry
The laity had, for a long time, been relegated to an inferior and passive position in the life and mission of the Church. The 2nd Vatican Council rediscovered and retrieved the dignity and responsibility of the laity as co-equal in the Church and co-responsible for the Church with the clergy and the religious by virtue of their baptism in Christ.
This one-day workshop will deal with 3 inter-related elements of the theme. It will
1. analyze the actual shift in Vatican II;
2. spell out the implications of the changes; and
3. inquire into Church realities that seem to hinder the shift to actually take place in parishes and dioceses.
Facilitator
José M. de Mesa, a lay theologian, is recognized as one of the most important theologians of the world today by the Missionwissenschaftliches Missio in Aachen, Germany. He is presently a University Fellow at De La Salle University, Manila and a Professor of Applied Theology at the Inter-Congregational Theological Centre in the Philippines. He also teaches regularly in Theological Union in Chicago and East Asia Pastoral Institute and is a published author.
When
Saturday, 7 August 2010 (9.00 am – 4.00 pm)
Where
La Salle Hall, Jalan 5/15B
Off Jalan Gasing, 46000 Petaling Jaya
How much
Fee is RM40 inclusive of light refreshments and lunch
Who to ask
Bernie (012-2637912) or Angeline (03-7955 0845)
chowbernie at yahoo dot com
By What Authority?
Rather than a possession, authority names the quality of relationship and is maintained in the character of the relationship. Where one might speak of the Bible, the creed or a pope as possessing authority, this authority in fact resides in the relationship between the community of faith and the Bible, the creed or the bishop/pope. Thus, terms like “authoritative” and “authoritarian” hint at different kinds of relationship.
Our workshop will deal with questions of authority regarding the Bible (how does the community relate with the Bible as normative), the Church’s teaching office (what does it mean to teach and be taught in a mutual manner) and the sense of the faithful (how do members of the Church discern together the enlightenment the Spirit gifts the community with, even when conflicting views arise).
Each session will consist of three segments:
1. an introductory input to map out the main points of a specific topic on authority;
2. guided small group discussions; and
3. a topical summary incorporating and elaborating insights from the input and the discussions.
Facilitator
José M. de Mesa, a lay theologian, is recognized as one of the most important theologians of the world today by the Missionwissenschaftliches Missio in Aachen, Germany. He is presently a University Fellow at De La Salle University, Manila and a Professor of Applied Theology at the Inter-Congregational Theological Centre in the Philippines. He also teaches regularly in Theological Union in Chicago and East Asia Pastoral Institute and is a published author.
When
Thursday, 29 July 2010 (7.30 pm – 10.00 pm)
Friday, 30 July 2010 (7.30 pm – 10.00 pm)
Saturday, 31 July 2010 (10.00 am – 4.00 pm)
Where
La Salle Hall, Jalan 5/15B
Off Jalan Gasing, 46000 Petaling Jaya
How much
Fee is RM60 inclusive of refreshments & light lunch on Saturday
Who to ask
Bernie (012-2637912) or Angeline (03-7955 0845)
chowbernie at yahoo dot com
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Courses organised/co-organised/co-sponsored
(May 8)
Workshop on Integration of Faith and Life: Growing in Spirituality in Petaling Jaya by John D’Cruz.
2009
(June 7–9)
Live-in workshop-seminar on Naming Jesus, Naming our Lives in Port Dickson presented by Jose M. de Mesa.
(3 June)
One-day session on Basic Theology for Prayer Companions in Ignatian Spirituality presented by Jose M. de Mesa.
(May 28–30)
Workshop Seminar on Living in Christ, Christ Living in Us: Lay Holiness and Ministry in Kelang presented by Jose M. de Mesa.
2008
(May 11)
Formation on Vocation of Marriage and Family Life in Melaka presented by Jose M. de Mesa.
(May 10)
Formation on Vocation of Marriage and Family Life in Johor presented by Jose M. de Mesa.
(May 8; May 12)
Two talks: a) Making Jesus Real in the BEC b) Lay Spirituality in a Multicultural Society in KL presented by Jose M. de Mesa.
(May 4–6)
A live-in workshop-seminar on Doing Theology: Basic Realities and Processes in Port Dickson presented Dr Jose M. de Mesa.
2007
(April 27 – May 1)
A live-in Growth and Wellness Workshop-Seminar for leaders in Port Dickson presented Ernest Tan of EAPI, Manila
2005
(August 12–14)
A live-in formation programme on The Mission of the Church in Asia in Melaka presented by Lazar Stanislaus, SVD, Director of Ishvani Kendra, Pune, India.
(July 24–27)
A live-in inter-faith meditation seminar on the Bhagavad Gita at Maranatha, Janda Baik presented by Sebastian Painadath sj, of Sameeksha Ashram in Kalady, India.
(June 22–24)
A live-in Workshop on Feminist Theology in KL presented by Elizabeth Schüssler Fiorenza.
2004
(August 27–29)
A workshop Journeying Together in Dialogue in PJ presented by Sebastian Painadath sj, of Sameeksha Ashram in Kalady, India.
(August 8–10)
A three-day series of talks on Problems and Prospects of Mission Today in KL presented by L. Stanislaus, SVD, Director of Ishvani Kendra in Pune, India.